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I’ve written several times of how I don’t like goals. I don’t like a life with goals. If I want to do something, I’ll do it. Other folks have written about this too like Zen Habits and Life Without Pants.
Now, there are quotes all over the place about how if you don’t set goals you’ll do nothing with your life. Like this one: “People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine.” Really?
So, I’ve put it to the test. This year, I set zero goals for myself. I just lived my life how I normally would. Doing things I wanted to do.
This was my last bit of consumer debt. This could have been a goal. I could have crossed it off the list. But did I really need to write this down to remind myself to pay this off? Nope.
This is a category where I can imagine myself setting some arbitrary goal for how much I would want in my emergency fund. And I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have met it. But, who cares? I have an emergency fund and that’s all that really matters.
“Be a better person” seems to come up a lot in goal lists. I was able to see new and old friends and family members this year. Don’t need a reminder for that.
I didn’t run much this year. And I’m sure that would have been a goal of mine. Some arbitrary number of miles that I would want to run in a year. And I wouldn’t have met it. But, who cares? I took care of myself in other ways. Eating more vegetables, cooking more meals at home, going to the doctor for health issues (instead of ignoring them). Sure, I can’t tell you a fancy number of miles, but these other things are still important. And these actions helped to build habits of eating a little bit healthier and taking time out for myself.
There are few goals sillier than “read X books this year”. Who cares? Read as many as you want to. Read as many as you find time for. Read lots so you can create the habit of reading daily. But don’t read just so you can tell people about a particular quantity. Don’t force yourself to read 4 books in a week just so you can meet this arbitrary number.
Again, I could have set an arbitrary goal to increase my networth by whatever percent. But I didn’t. And I still worked on increasing it. Yes, it’s still negative. But now it’s less negative. Who cares if I increased it by 25% or 1%? It’s getting better.
Finally. Just the act alone is extremely helpful for my financial situation. The amount of my monthly contribution or amount saved doesn’t matter right now.
One cookbook and one comics collection. At the beginning of the year, drawing was barely on my radar. I probably would have made some creative-related goal about sewing. But instead of being limited by a goal, I was able to broaden my skills and be creative in a way I had never done before.
Looking at that list, I’ve had seven big accomplishments this year. I’m proud of that! Unfortunately, I know that if I had made an arbitrary goals list, I probably wouldn’t have reached most of them. And wouldn’t have felt nearly as proud for the things I did do. Because I’d be staring at this list of things I didn’t do.
Without having goals to focus on this year, did I just stay in bed all day racking up credit card debt? Nope! I did the things I wanted to do. And I never felt like I was living just to check something off a list.