Because Being Alone is Okay

Because Being Alone is Okay


In a city the size of New York, it is surprisingly easy to feel alone. There are times when none of your friends are around to see that movie, hear that band, or watch that game. Whether you have a large group of friends or don’t. Whether you’re in a relationship or not. There are times you will want to do things no one else does.

There is little you can do but to embrace this feeling and take advantage of when being alone can work for you. There are some activities that are more fun with a group and some that are more suited for one-person.

Doing things alone gives you freedom. You make all the decisions – no compromises, no sacrifices. This takes getting used to. Being alone can feel scary. That’s okay.


Going to see a movie in a theater is a good introduction to going out alone. The dark setting means no one will notice you are by yourself (if you are worried about that) and you can’t talk during the movie anyway.

An advantage to seeing a movie alone is you’re likely to get a great seat. People often leave an empty seat next to them as a buffer between groups hoping they will have some extra space. Well, that seat is yours. Chances are, there is an open single seat right near the middle.

Seeing a movie alone has worked in my favor before. Over the summer I went to see a rooftop film and by the time I got to the venue, they had just sold out. I looked disappointed and asked if they were sure. The guy checked something then came back and asked if I was by myself. When I answered yes, he said I could get in. Granted, that won’t happen every time but for once, I was glad to have been on my own that night.

Sports Bars

While going to a live sporting event is more fun with a group, going to a sports bar by yourself to watch a game can also be a lot of fun. Chances are other folks sitting at the bar are also interested in the game. This means you can talk about the game while watching and you’ll have people to join you in celebrating a win or drowning the sorrows of a loss.


Going to a museum alone gives you the opportunity to look at the exhibitions of your choice and spend as long as you want looking at them. Museums are a place of consideration not conservation so you’re not losing anything by exploring on your own. Take your time, go at your own pace, and enjoy your favorite pieces of art & history.


Musical concerts are another event that doesn’t involve talking during the show and being alone gives you the freedom to find a good spot/seat. Dance like no one’s watching. Sing your heart out. Have fun.

Parks & Exploring

Going out for a long walk by yourself can help clear your head. You are also given the opportunity to explore freely and spontaneously. Walk across the bridge instead of turning around. Check out that little store instead of walking past.

During nice weather, parks are a great place to relax and people watch. Bring a book and a blanket, lay on the grass or a bench. Enjoy being outside and stay as long as you like.


Although work out buddies are helpful motivation, exercising alone provides focus and an opportunity for self-reflection. Going for a run, bike ride, or a work out at the gym by yourself gives you time to sort out ongoing stressors and to take note of your physical progress.


4 Replies to “Because Being Alone is Okay”

  1. I love going to the movies by myself. I remember going to see the Sex & the City movie miday on my own in a megatheater and I had such a good time. I haven’t lately but I just might now. I have gone to Concerts on my own and enjoyed it. Sometimes it did get a bit lonely if I arrived early and the band was running late but I am always glad I went by the end of the night.

  2. As a bachelor living in a big city I totally get it. Doing activities alone can be almost therapeutic. No stress, no pressure, no judgement. Just have to be careful when it comes to holidays. I usually like to keep a low profile and don’t go out on Valentines day lol.

  3. I’m not sure I’ve been to the movies by myself but I’ve certainly dined alone and been to a concert alone (more or less – big music festival, I wanted to see bands nobody else did, so I split off on my own for the day once we got there). I also prefer to run alone. And last year I travelled overseas by myself for the first time, which was a cool experience.

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